“The Ten Kidmandments isn’t just for parents; it is for anyone who wants to be happier in life.”
Tom Hill, co-author of CHICKEN SOUP FOR THE ENTREPRENEUR’S SOUL
Thank you to author Larry Bleidner for his comments about my book.
“Jeff Oddo’s 10 KIDMANDMENTS should be standard equipment for anyone who is a parent or is considering becoming a parent. With a well calibrated moral compass, Jeff offers rock-solid, sage advice that will help your children grow from happy kids through fulfilled adults.”
~ Larry Bleidner, author of MACK DADDY: Mastering Fatherhood Without Losing Your Style
I am honored to receive a blurb for THE 10 KIDMANDMENTS from Rick Johnson, bestselling author of THAT’S MY SON, BETTER DADS STRONGER SONS, and BECOMING YOUR SPOUSE’S BETTER HALF.
“Parenting may be the most difficult job on the planet. But this easy-to-read (and beautiful) book contains some simple, basic principles sure to help all parents raise healthy and happy children. These principles lay out a plan to create a strong foundation for a successful life and a great relationship with your children.”
–Rick Johnson, author of THAT’S MY SON, BETTER DADS STRONGER SONS
I am honored to be reviewed by Christopher Lewis in
Dad of Divas review of THE 10 KIDMANDMENTS.
I also look forward to soon being included in his Dads in the Limelight series. Thank you, Christopher.
Having a family mission statement could be one of the most important take-away my book THE 10 KIDMANDMENTS. If you have not identified what is important to you and your family, now is the time. Once the kids become teenagers, the chances of making an impact are greatly diminished. That doesn’t mean I wouldn’t do it, I would just encourage you to do this sooner rather than later.
Why: If your children are struggling with being respectful, motivated, ethical etc, chances are they don’t understand their purpose in life- Kidmandment #1. If this is the case, they are living someone else’s dream instead of their own. This causes unnecessary challenges that create negative energy and negative results, neither of which do you want in your home. The solution to these unwanted problems is to teach them AND personally live a life dedicated to serving others. Selfish living on a parents behalf will always out trump anything you say. If you think happiness can be found in the next pair of shoes, trip or new car, you are demonstrating to your kids the opposite of a life that we teach in the book. True happiness can only be found when we as something in life that allows us to focus on serving/helping others rather than living a life serving ourselves.
How: Sit down with your family and explain to them why you want to do this exercise (answer is above). Obviously it is not because you want to fix them. That will go over like a lead balloon. It needs to be presented as something you have been thinking about, something that has been missing in your life, something that you need their help with to become a better parent, spouse, sibling etc. Like most things in life, timing is everything, too young- they don’t understand what you are talking about so you own it; too old- they think you and this exercise is stupid. Emphasize that a family discussion about what we want to accomplish as a family, what we want to be known for in our community, what values we want to seek and create in our friendships is necessary to living fulfilled lives.
Benefits: Once done, it can be used to “referee” almost any family problem. We agreed that we value …; the reason she is not necessarily a good friend is because she doesn’t share the same vales that we do; let’s look at what we agreed to and we can see “that” is not acceptable in our family because it contradicts our mission in life.
Sit down THIS WEEK and create a Family Mission Statement with your spouse and children. It will change your life.